Why is it so hard to understand that we can agree to disagree?


to be one

I have been watching this for a long time. I even addressed this before. And yet it amazes me every time that some people really can’t discuss, even argue, in a civil and respectful manner. It’s either my way or nobody’s way. It’s really ridiculous because I have yet to meet someone who changed his mind or opinion because the other person was rude, disrespectful and insulting. What’s the point of doing it? You really only confirm the other person’s point of view by acting that way.

It almost makes me laugh when I witness it. Whether it be political opinions or discussions about questions of life, someone will try to force his opinion on someone else. We should discuss and even argue in a respectful manner, but to flat out be a jerk to someone else simply because the other person disagrees with you is not okay.


Unless you are discussing church doctrine, in which there is only black and white because you can’t just pick and choose which commandments are fun and which to leave out, it is possible to agree to disagree. I have done that plenty of times and yet there are some who can only talk by insulting others. Calling someone an idiot or moron (or worse) during a discussion because you don’t like their point of view is definitely not the way to go if you want them on your side. It is usually the most aggressive one’s that expect the most respect and tolerance but are absolutely not willing to give it.

Respect has to be earned. My kid’s karate school motto is “Always earned, Never given”. It refers to the different belts they can get and other things, but this goes well with every day life too and definitely with respect. You have to earn respect and show respect before you can expect it in return. It’s a two way thing.

Tolerance does not mean what many people think it means. It doesn’t mean I have to agree with you. I’ve shared this knowledge many times before and will continue to preach it until people finally get it. “Tolerance is the positive and cordial effort to understand another’s beliefs, practices, and habits WITHOUT necessarily sharing or accepting them.” There you go, I just taught you something new, you are welcome. šŸ˜€

There is never a reason to be rude. If you want me to listen to you, be kind and polite. However, if you are only nice to me as long as I agree with you or if you talk to me just to make me change my mind and you are not willing to listen yourself, you are wasting your time. I will only change my mind when I feel it is the right thing to do and when I want to change my mind (and I bet many other people feel the same way). God gave each of us agency. He wanted us to make decisions ourselves. If I want to get respect and kindness, I have to give it first, a rule that should apply to anyone. Going back to my original thought, it is okay and possible to agree to disagree. Both parties just have to want it.

throughout life


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