Love is definitely a wonderful and powerful word. To make love work we have to do something, and we need to listen to our hearts to know what someone else might need, or is trying to say. Love surely is an action word, but that doesn’t mean it is easy. Loving someone else can be the most beautiful thing, but it can also be a heartache, trial or even seem impossible.
Love often ends up in marriage and that is not as easy as it sounds or looks. It is something both partners have to work on every single day, and both have to be 100% committed that they want to make it work no matter what.
I love my husband and I am grateful we have been married for 12 years now. I see that as a blessing because in today’s world it is just not a normal thing anymore. Of course we have our ups and downs, and sometimes we dislike each other quite a bit, but our love is still there and as long as we both stick to our goals and commitment, we can make it.
It does break my heart when I hear about people breaking up or getting a divorce. Of course there are times when a marriage needs to be broken apart (like when one is abusing the other, physically or mentally), but in my experience it is for many just an easy way out because they don’t want to deal with the hard and difficult times. They want to run away from problems which, most of the time, can be worked out. I know that saying that is very risky because many don’t seem to think that way anymore and they definitely don’t agree with me on that, but I still believe that with all my heart. I know that Heavenly Father puts people together for a reason and we can only achieve what he wants us to achieve if we are willing to work through everything, even the hard times.
Satan certainly uses divorce to get to the family and destroy as much love and feelings as he can. It makes me sad because he seems to have a lot of success lately and it doesn’t even seem to bother most people that families are breaking apart and that unkindness, hatred and evil is spreading everywhere around us.
It is tough to hang on sometimes because we are different and come from different backgrounds, families and sometimes even countries and cultures, but when we agree to do what we can and when we make Heavenly Father part of our “partnership” anything and everything is possible. He loves us more than we can imagine and if we have Him by our side, we can love those around us as well.
I wish I could help those around us understand that they shouldn’t just give up because things are tough, but that they should keep fighting the good fight. I know I can’t because many don’t even listen. They are so set on knowing that there isn’t a solution, and that things can’t be worked out, that they just don’t hear what other people might have to say. Again, of course there are times when a divorce is helpful and important, but the world makes us believe now that the numbers should go up instead of down and that there are many cases that need to be broken up. I disagree with that and I think that we could change that kind of thinking if we were only willing to fully trust the Lord and work hard on sticking together. A good marriage doesn’t just happen. We have to work together and help one another to grow and become a better person. One meaning of love is: a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. We can have constant affection for someone and not like what they do or say. We can give our heart to someone and still be ourselves.
Goethe once said: “If you treat a man as he is, he will remain as he is, but if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be, and could be, he will become what he ought to be, and should be.” Once we start treating each other in such way, things will change. Once we start seeing one another like that we can truly love each other and make this world and our families a better place.